I have been struggling with unconditional love and boundaries, both for my own, as well as the other person’s sake.

The confusing tension between unconditional love and spiritual discernment. I have come to the conclusion, for now, that real compassion does not mean tolerating destructive behaviour; it means seeing the deeper truth within someone without surrendering your integrity or sanity to their dysfunction.

Unconditional love is not unconditional permission.

It’s the recognition that every soul, no matter how distorted in its current expression, carries divine potential — but that potential does not excuse their behaviour.

I honour the divine essence in every person, but I will not cooperate with ignorance.”

Compassion feels with, not for.

When you “feel for,” you risk falling into pity, rescue, or enabling.

When you “feel with,” you remain centred — you see their suffering and blindness, but you don’t absorb it or fix it.

I can witness someone’s confusion without participating in it.

Boundaries are not walls; they are clarity made visible.

You can love someone and still say “No.” In fact, “No” is often the most compassionate word when “Yes” would feed their arrogance or irresponsibility.

Every arrogant, defiant, or dishonest act is a defense mechanism rooted in fear or shame.

On the surface, this behaviour is unacceptable.

At the soul level, this person is deeply insecure, hungry for control, or terrified of insignificance.

The greatest danger is that their energy pulls you into reaction.

Your spiritual practice — silence, prayer, breath — is your protection.

When needing to address the situation, ask yourself;

“From which part of me am I responding — the wounded self, or the wise self?”

Let Consequences Be the Teacher

Sometimes love looks like allowing someone to meet the results of their choices.

Shielding them from those consequences only reinforces their immaturity.

You can still hold them in your heart, but let life, and Spirit, do their refining work.